As I dropped off my girls in their new classroom on Monday, I realized how different they really are. Sure, they're alike in a multitude of ways, but their personalities are so different that I wonder if they would even be friends if they weren't sisters. One is very shy and takes a LONG time to warm up to new people. She is also quite the diva when it comes to clothes, hair, and messy spaghetti hands. The other is so outgoing, we're afraid she'll walk off with someone some day. She loves playing dolls and trucks, she pulls anything pretty out of her hair, and she loves a good mess. But these too are truly the best of friends. They hug, kiss, hold hands, and say they love each other even from different rooms. They watch out for each other. One will bring the other a drink while the other searches for a missing blanket. They complement each other well. It is my hope that this continues.
While I was pondering this and thinking about getting my 5 year old ready for Kindergarten Roundup, I realized that the twins may not have this same relationship as they get older. Maybe the outgoing one will leave her sister behind to fend for herself socially. Some schools split twins so they get different social experiences. At this point, I'm not sure if the diva could handle that. Thinking back to Monday morning dropping them off, Maylee was crying while Mallory went and sat right down. She hardly seemed troubled that her sister was crying. At home, they would be comforting one another. I started feeling a bit unsettled and then hit the internet. What on earth did parents do before the web?
I searched for twin teens. The teenage years are such a difficult time. Personally, I am glad I finished those years when I did. I hear such horror stories from teacher friends about how kids talk and what they do. (Somedays I wish I could homeschool like my good friend Tiffany. I haven't the brains nor the patience!) I guess I was so naive back in my high school days. Let's call it good parenting and landing in the right crowd. What I found was article after article about twins being close to one another and being close to their families. Sure, some twins hate each other and live to be such separate individuals, but I think for most, it's hard to turn your back on your former wombmate! Check out this article from The Advantages of Being a Teenage Multiple (Book Excerpt from Parenting School-Age Twins and Multiples).
How do you see your multiples progressing as they age? What about your singles? What do you think you can do now to keep the momentum going in the right direction?
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